When I first learned I had cancer, it was like a dagger through my heart. My wife Brenda was there beside me. I can only imagine how she felt. I’m trying to make light of the situation so as to keep her from losing it but in reality that’s how I deal with things anyway. Throughout that first terrible week, Brenda was there with me through all the bad news and never showed how bad it was affecting her, at least not to me. When I began my chemo and the sickness and side effects began taking their toll on me, she was there with me the entire time. She got permission to work from home, which I will be eternally grateful for the generosity and compassion that Legendary Homes has shown during this time. My wife has been there for me at my lowest and most humbling points during this illness. She does everything without complaint or consideration for herself. When you promise to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, in sickness or in health, you hope to never have to put those words to the test. She has lived those words and my love for her grows stronger everyday. She makes me stronger. She makes me a better person and I love her very much and she knows this because I tell her everyday several times a day, just as she does to me. She is the love of my life and I would never want to live without her.
This Valentine’s Day couples will show their affection by going out to dinner, buying flowers, going to see a romantic movie (we will be seeing the new Die Hard movie. That’s just how we roll.), and maybe buying a heart shaped box of chocolates. I hope that every couple would do these things more often than just this one day that is dedicated to the affairs of the heart.
My illness has shown me that everyday is precious and nothing should be taken for granted. The Cancer may take my colon and my liver but it will never be able to get my heart. That was taken years ago by the most incredible woman I’ve ever known. I love you Brenda. Happy Valentines Day!
With you here, I know that life is much more fun. –Pooh
Sometimes the things that you’re looking for, you can’t see with your eyes. You have to see them with your heart. –Peter Pan (Disney Dreams)